Recently Jenna Marbles came out with a video that is 9 minutes and 23 seconds of shaming girls for having sex (I’m not gonna link to the video because I’m not into giving it views but you can easily find it). I made the mistake of reading the comments and then I got angry and decided that this is something I needed to write. Marbles is by no means the only woman to think this way, but the fact is that she has five million people that watch her videos, and a very heavy chunk of those people are young, impressionable girls.
We’ll come back to Jenna later. Right now I wanna discuss the act of slut shaming itself. It’s something we’ve probably all done in our lifetime. More than likely because we are trained to do so. We are taught at a very young age that girls are to be “sexy but not sexual”, and that girls who have sex are not good people and should be looked down upon when this is just not the case. This type of thinking is extremely harmful in multiple ways. For one, it pits females against their own gender, contributing to girl on girl hate. “Slut” is usually one of the first insults thrown out by somebody towards a woman they dislike, even if they’ve only had sex with their boyfriend, or haven’t even had sex at all! But we attribute people who have sex to be bad and therefore “sluts” are bad and that’s what we call girls we don’t like. It also hinders the feminism. Shaming a woman for what she does with her own body halts the progress we’ve made to make decisions on our own. Slut shaming also supports the double standard of women and men having sex. A man is revered for having a lot of sex, and a woman is put down for it.
But the most harmful thing slut shaming does is strengthen the belief that how a woman acts or dresses leads to her getting raped. Victim blaming is already a huge problem in our world. Saying a woman deserves to get attacked and have a penis forcibly put inside her against her will solely because she dresses in a revealing way is not only cruel but incredibly ignorant.
Slut shaming is just a silly thing to do anyway. A woman is perfectly capable of making her own choices of what to do with her own body, and unless it’s actually hurting you then it shouldn’t matter. “but Alex, girls get pregnant and then I have to pay for their babies with my tax-” oh my god stop. That is maybe the dumbest thing you can say about this whole situation. Also, this problem can be solved be teaching both girls and boys how to be smart and safe about sex.
All this brings us beck to Jenna’s video. As mentioned above, she has five million subscribers, and her top demographic is 13-17 year old girls. That is the prime age when girls are discovering and exploring their sexuality and videos like this only make them feel shitty for doing so. Marble’s is only adding to the problem and is using her influence in the wrong way which is both upsetting and infuriating.
Okay two big things we’ve learned today. 1) How much sex a person has has no relation to their worth as a human being. 2) Slut shaming is harmful in a multitude of ways.
So just don’t do it!